Building healthy trust to do what is right

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Building healthy trust is hard work, most certainly is an important part in all of your relationships. In this article by Telka Arend-Ritter, you will find guidelines for establishing healthy trust to do what is right.

 

Guidelines for establishing trust

 

Use these 10 guidelines to establish healthy trust in all of your relationships:

1.) Listen to yourself even when it is easier not to.

Trust yourself to live by your values. People feel violated or violate others because they failed to listen to their own better judgment.

2) Build friendships, relationships, intimacy and love gradually over time.

Immediate, intense, impulsive connections represent immaturity, dependency and a fear of being alone. Although this fast pace is romantic and makes great Lifetime movies, in real life “Easy In” is often followed by “Easy Out.”

3) Listen to how others speak of their friends and family.

Be loyal to those who are not present. Loyalty to those not present is a Stephen Covey term referring to speaking about people in the same manner when they are absent as you would when they are present.

4) Behavior speaks louder than words.

Observe behavior. Alignment of words and actions creates healthy trust. Trust is damaged when words and actions conflict.

5) Honor personal privacy.

Respect your own privacy as well as the privacy of others. Keep some feelings and information private. Never share information you cannot afford to disclose.

6) Set limits, enforce limits and honor others’ limits.

Trust requires that “no” means “no.” Say “no” without feeling guilty. Respect another’s right to tell you “no.”

7) Teach people how to treat you.

Do not tolerate or reward another’s inappropriate behavior. Take responsibility for negotiating your needs in every relationship. Notice when your anger creates difficulty with people relating openly with you.

8) Be honorable. Keep promises.

Be trustworthy. Maintain your dignity.

9)You will repeat your childhood trust issues until you heal them.

Learn from past lessons to make healthier choices today. Children who feel betrayed by angry, abusive, immature, neglectful or addicted parents learn to choose angry, abusive, immature, neglectful or addicted people to betray their trust in adulthood. Relationships are a reflection of how you view your role in the world. Heal what you prefer not to repeat. “Be the change you seek,” Gandhi.

10.) Information is power: Understand issues related to child development, addiction and cognitive or mood impairment.

•Become familiar with the stages of childhood cognitive development. Children demonstrate trust-worthiness in developmental stages. A two-year old cannot “be trusted” to stay out of the street. A child with attention deficit disorder cannot “be trusted” to complete multiple tasks without supervision. Learn how to determine age appropriate “trust” by taking a parenting class or reading a developmental child psychology book.

•Understand that addictive, mood-altering substances interfere with trust-worthiness. Do not expect an addicted person to be trustworthy. Addiction loosens inhibitions, impairs judgment and causes brain damage. Attend Alanon to learn more about maintaining relationships with people who struggle with addictions.

•Mental illness, cognitive impairment and dementia may also interfere with trust-worthiness. People who suffer from brain diseases, head injury, chemical imbalances, dementia and other neurological disorders often demonstrate difficulties with impulse control, judgment, reasoning, concentration, memory and decision-making. A psychological or neurological evaluation will help establish a plan to address these deficits.“I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you.”

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